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If you thought the route to sexual happiness was straightforward, look at this list of sexual blunders made by men when they're enjoying sex. If any of them are familiar, you need to sharpen up on your bedroom etiquette! 1) Heading for her vulva, clitoris or breasts A woman is probably going to be irritated than sexually excited when a man heads for her breasts and vulva after a bit of kissing. Be aware of what she needs and touch her sexual parts only when she's already aroused. If you go for her breasts when you get her into bed and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio station, you're not going to get a very good reception. 2) Not knowing how to kiss like a romantic Passionate kissing is an art form which eases a couple into the main event of sex and promotes intimacy. Learn how to kiss your woman, and do it well. That doesn't include sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around madly. 3) Not respecting her erogenous zones Men like to have a firm touch applied to their dick. But if you approach her clitoris with as much force as you apply to your penis when you're treating yourself to a quick wank, she's likely to howl with pain - and then she'll probably kick you out of bed. The clitoris has twice as many nerves as the penis, so it's very delicate. Treat it accordingly. 4) Not stroking her gently A woman's biggest sex organ is her mind. The next biggest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For a woman, sex is all about making connection. And that includes skin to skin contact. An hour spent massaging her will not only get her in the mood for sex, but it will almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. Make sure you focus on putting some sexual energy into your fingers while you massage her. That means not thinking distractedly about the football game while you're oiling her up. 5) Locking onto her nipples like a suckling child Tempting though it may be to suck on her breasts, she's not going to want you reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her areolae and gently work towards her nipple, licking it with your tongue and maybe carefully sucking it between your lips when she's really excited. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of pleasure. 6) Biting or blowing on her earlobe because you think it's sexy Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her erogenous zones elsewhere. 7) Leaving a kiss bite on her neck If you're over the age of consent, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex. 8) Not shaving before sex Think what it was like the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' growth around her vulva. Now imagine that brushing back and forth on your face in the erotic throes of passionate kissing. Enough said? 9) Not washing your pits and bits before you make love Even if you have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're clean when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male equivalent is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.) 10) Forgetting that foreplay starts a long time before sex Every woman wants to be appreciated. If you touch her lovingly all day, show how much you love her, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you're thinking of her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime. Leaving loving little billets-douxwhere she'll find them is also a good idea. But make sure they are romantic! 11) Penetrating her before she's ready Yes, we know you're a man, and we know you're obsessed with penetration. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only pluck the fruit when you know it's really ripe and dripping juice. While men forget that women like penetration just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want penetration when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, surreptitiously check out her cunt. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on Google. 12) Going straight to her clitoris during oral sex or masturbation Most women just find this irritating - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and lubricated. Work from around her labia, the lips of her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more sexuall excited. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her. 3) Slowing down when she wants you to keep going at all costs If she's almost at orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your cock, your fingers or your tongue. Bearing in mind how hard on the tongue cunnilingus can be, we suggest you make sure your hands are ready in reserve if you get a bad case of lock jaw. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her sexual arousal, not because you're licking ineffectively at her vulva. But then again, how would you know? She may be loving what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth or fingers, in which case give her more of your touch. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be cooking the dinner, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe? 14) Undressing her inelegantly Listen up guys: you don't have to take her bra off with one hand blindfold in the dark while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you don't even try. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, especially if it interrupts the romance. Let her take off the clothes you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're undressing her gently and sensuously rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true. 15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom Nothing is more comical to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and socks. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to take pity on you, take off your socks first. 16) Expecting her to shave for you Yes, we know you like the smooth look around her vulva, but if she's not into shaving, don't try and make her do it for you. There are few things more annoying than itchy stubble in the pubes. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to lightly trim the hair. 17) Entering her without asking her first Such a bizarre idea! And yet so nice - once in a while - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very exciting and loving way to go if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, you'll be in the the missionary, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, there are times when you can just sense the moment for penetration - but always remember not to let your judgment be affected by your desire to fuck here. Yes, we know the urge is hard to resist. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first. 18) Pecking away around her vagina with your penis if you can't find the way in This will turn her off at once - guaranteed. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a klutz can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, it'll be quicker if she just puts it in for you. 19) Thrusting away without regard for her pleasure Now you're in! Hurrah! But whatcha gonna do next? Pump away heartily till you ejaculate? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? So make sure you start with slow and shallow thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act like a real man: be confident, know what you're doing, be considerate and gentle at first, and work up to harder and more vigorous thrusts if she makes it clear that's what she wants (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!"). 20) Expecting her to willingly offer her bottom to you when you want it doggie style It's a male thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, women sometimes get the urge for rampant, primal sex too. In between, you might get it on your birthday, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to get her ass in the air, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're riding a horse. 21) Thrusting too hard when you have a big penis If you happen to have a large member, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you hit her cervix. This will not, probably, be a shriek of delight. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for the moment. 22) Premature ejaculation is not the mark of a good lover Sadly few men have the endurance that allows them to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and thrusting against her G-spot. You can improve your staying-power with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for at least long enough to give her some pleasure. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". 23) Not coming at all - retarded ejaculation Delayed ejaculation is not the gift of the gods that you might think. She won't see it as in any way attractive, either, when her cunt is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't going to come. So if you are one of the men who have trouble ejaculating, go see a sexual therapist! The quicker you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy making love with you and stop having plenty of time to think about her shopping list. 24) Losing your erection when you put the condom on This is very common, so it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if you can find a solutions. 25) Not going down on her when she wants cunnilingus Most men like the idea of going down on a woman, so any reservations must be about her smell or taste. If she's a bit ripe, then suggest a shower as part of foreplay. If all you're interested in is getting her to suck your cock and you won't do the same in return, reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway. 26) Failing to give her pleasure if you have premature ejaculation By the way, {{{you should make sure that your woman has an orgasm before you do|women come first
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